Hello my friend,
It’s all good. This is what a friend frequently said after we had deep, true, uncomfortable conversations.
It’s all good. The sentence softened surprise sore spots and popped us back to our gentle happy place. I went along with the move as a reliable “keep conversation light and appealing” practice to stay in our comfort zone of okayness.
These days I am not willing to spread peanut butter and jelly on shit to make it taste better.
The bitter, sour and salty truth is here for a reason. Our discomfort is an invitation. Because the truth is, eventually it IS all good, yet much of the time, we miss the chance to access this authentic goodness with a premature rejection fueled by fear-filled habits.
So, how do we face discomfort?
We choose and practice and allow.
Here is one way to choose, practice, and allow facing discomfort:
For 2021, I am hosting and facilitating a deeper exploration of the Inner Money Map based on the Inner Map created by Julia Colwell. Each month we explore various emotional states as they relate to money. [Join the FB group if you are inspired to play and discover.]
Joy is our exploration for July. But I don’t mean It’s all good kind of joy. Not to be a killjoy, but right now I am being right where I am — and in my discovery, joy co-exists with many other feelings.
It’s all good is a Joy masquerade.
Let’s take our masks off and be right here with what is.
With this view and practice, I am discovering the infinite facets of Joy that do not feel like effervescent champagne bubbles. Joy often accompanies sweet tears, power sweats, shivers in uncertainty and stomps in disgust. The surprise feelings may not last long, but the potency of these truths is unshakable and undeniable.
The problem, which is really not a problem, is when we hold Joy on an It’s all good pedestal, our expectations will always crash into the reality that something else also wants attention. Truth is truth. I cannot talk about the simple, delightful side of Joy without giving attention to all of the ways Joy is here to meet us.
Joy is so many forms of expression! Do you recognize any of these in yourself?
When I feel angry about manipulative money situations, or an unappreciative sibling, Joy is my cheerleader chanting “you go girl, you go girl, you go girl.” I experience passionate fiery joy in my belly.
When I feel sad about young adults with student debt, or my repeating “do more, give more” self-sabotage patterns, Joy is my comfort blanket stroking my back. I experience compassionate kind joy in my chest and eyes.
When I feel scared about overconsumption killing our planet, or my ability to handle the stuff in our home-downsize, Joy is my expansive breath generating a pause. I experience clear determination-joy in my belly, chest and spine.
Joy is maturing happiness we feel without words.
Joy allows me to see and experience the gorgeous complexity of being human felt inside my body and emotional states.
In Joy, I am discovering that by abiding in creativity, all emotions naturally arise simultaneously. The more I open, the more I welcome all feelings. That’s what we are up to when we explore Joy.
My Joy discoveries show me that I am whole and lovable, wise and worthy — and all reactive emotions are a part of Joy expressing themselves in their essence. And this, my friends, leads us to the authentic experience of It’s all good.
Enjoying all facets of Joy,
Tiny Body Practice
In January, I introduced my Walk with Me series with a winter beach walk. Six months into 2021, let’s amplify our soul space practice, I am now calling “soulspacing”- feeding our soul in the space we intentionally inhabit. Our videos this month are short offerings of a recent hike in the Redwoods. Nature is a reliable place to nourish our bodies and calm our minds. Simply watch while breathing through all of your pores like a gentle breeze.
Then, float these questions in your mind for generous answers:
How am I soulspacing?
What is my/are my soul spaces?
How does my body feel in my soul space(s)?
What is the same/different in other spaces I inhabit?
What happens when I ignore my soulspacing?